Chapter 1: The Dangers of Indecision

The word “maybe” can be more troublesome than you might think. It muddles your thoughts, conveys vague messages to others, and distracts from what truly matters.

“Maybe” can be quite frustrating. Often, people use it as a way to avoid commitment. In my past experiences, I dated someone who frequently responded with “maybe” whenever I suggested plans. Initially, I interpreted her response as shyness, taking the initiative to make decisions. However, she later accused me of being overly assertive, to which I countered, “But you never actually said no.”

To clarify, this wasn’t about intimacy, where consent was always apparent. I’m referring to everyday decisions, such as planning outings together.

The crux of the matter is that relying on “maybe” is an unhealthy habit. It’s far more beneficial to communicate openly. If you’re not interested in something, express that with a clear “no.” While it may feel uncomfortable initially, it ultimately fosters better understanding.

Beyond interpersonal communication, it’s essential to eliminate “maybe” from your internal dialogue as well. Aim for decisive choices—either yes or no. If you find yourself unable to commit, recognize that it’s a no. This clarity simplifies many aspects of life.

The difference it makes in productivity is astounding. For instance, if you have a collection of potential article ideas for Medium, evaluate each one. If a particular concept doesn’t inspire you, remove it from your list and continue searching for better options.

Similarly, if your reading list has grown overwhelming, assess each item. Discard anything that doesn’t excite you; there’s an endless supply of content out there, so prioritize what truly resonates with you.

If you encounter an article by a new author that doesn’t appeal to you, mute them and move on.

When invited to events, resist the urge to respond with “maybe.” If you genuinely want to attend, you would know it. A lack of enthusiasm signifies that it’s time to decline.

Recently, I listened to a podcast discussing this very concept. By being decisive and saying no, you can eliminate unnecessary emotional baggage from your life. Sure, some friendships may fade, but they’re often the ones that no longer serve your journey. This clarity allows you to wholeheartedly commit to the activities and people that align with your values.

Make bold choices and follow through on them. Life is fleeting, filled with opportunities for meaningful experiences. Don’t squander it on indecision. Either take action or refrain from doing so. Keep it simple, direct, and effective.

Chapter 2: The Power of Decisive Living

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