The True Meaning of "Be Yourself"

There's an age-old adage that suggests "being yourself" will lead to success with women. However, this phrase requires reevaluation.

What women often mean is, "Be the type of man I find appealing." Many men falter in the early dating phase because they present a façade to seem attractive. Essentially, they are crafting a misleading image of who they are.

This approach is counterproductive. The reality is, when a woman agrees to go out with you, you've already conquered a significant part of the battle. However, many men inadvertently sabotage this initial attraction by failing to be authentic.

Women often feel the need to be cautious because some men do not match their advertised personas. For instance, I’ve met men who claim to be self-assured and driven yet struggle to maintain a conversation and become anxious if they don’t receive immediate responses.

Creating Intrigue

For a woman to want to spend time with you, she must be the one to initiate that desire. Many unsuccessful men force themselves into a woman's life, which can be off-putting.

The key to success during the early dating phase is to spark curiosity. Women should want to learn more about you, which doesn’t imply you need to be overly secretive or emotionally distant. Instead, you must stop pursuing her as if she is the ultimate prize.

Consider why women enjoy murder mysteries and unsolved crime shows; it's the intrigue and the quest for answers that captivates them.

During initial interactions, avoid bombarding her with constant texts or revealing all your secrets. Maintaining a sense of mystery can help build attraction; it keeps her guessing about your interest.

Remember, it’s not about playing games but rather about allowing things to develop naturally.

Being Present

Finally, one of the simplest yet most crucial aspects is to be genuinely present. A woman who recognizes that you are focused on your goals will appreciate your limited availability.

When you spend time with her, make sure she has your undivided attention. If you're distracted, it signals that your time is not truly dedicated to her. She deserves to feel that her relationship with you is meaningful and distinct from your everyday life.

Yes, women appreciate attention, but they also dislike having to solicit it. If they feel neglected, they may seek validation elsewhere.

In summary, arrive as your true self, cultivate intrigue, and be fully engaged when together. This straightforward approach can significantly enhance your dating experience.

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