Reclaiming Your Life: The Vauro Circle for Stress Reduction
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Chapter 1: Understanding Your Environment
Life presents itself in diverse ways for everyone. While some thrive in beautiful surroundings, others are forced to adapt to less favorable environments. As individuals transition into university life, they begin to cultivate their own social circles, forming friendships that can significantly influence their wellbeing.
Can we truly adapt to the environments we create at this stage? Often, misguided friendships can lead to feelings of depression. For instance, we might find ourselves drawn to popular, intelligent, or wealthy individuals, striving to emulate them. However, this pursuit often reveals the stark truth: we are not those people.
In our attempts to impress others, we risk deceiving ourselves. It's important to recognize that life, and our families, frequently fall short of providing what we desire. In fact, we often lack clarity about our true wants. This journey toward understanding our needs is, in essence, a maturation process.
Chapter 2: The Vauro Method
The Vauro method represents a unique approach to relationships that I have coined. It involves creating a personal "Vauro Circle," wherein you place yourself at the center, surrounded by family, friends, and other connections.
Humans are inherently resistant to change, which can trap us within our established circles. The first step is to embrace the belief that change is possible. This process involves actively removing stressors from your life, allowing your circle to transform into a comforting personal space. You are empowered to shape that world—who wouldn’t relish such authority?
Section 2.1: The Steps to Constructing Your Vauro Circle
Challenge the Idea of Indispensability
Begin by recognizing that friendships and love can be transient. People enter and exit our lives, and ending a relationship doesn't equate to personal failure. Although you may experience hurt during this transition, remember that new connections can fill the void.
Identify Stressors
Reflect on your experiences and identify what triggers stress in your life. Initially, I attempted to cut ties with those causing discomfort, but this often led to more complications. Instead, I learned to engage with them directly, expressing my feelings constructively. While some relationships blossomed from this, others did not take my concerns seriously.
Remove Toxic Influences
I started to distance myself from individuals who disregarded my feelings. My approach was straightforward: I communicated my discomfort and chose to create space between us. It may be challenging initially, but over time, the process becomes easier, leading to a circle filled with those who genuinely care for you.
Chapter 3: Building Your Circle of Support
In this phase, you will begin to invite individuals who align with your values and enhance your happiness. Define the qualities you seek in your relationships and focus on cultivating those connections.
I am currently writing a book on this topic, but I wanted to share this approach with you in advance. I plan to delve deeper into these concepts in future discussions. This method has proven effective in my own life and within my practice, and I believe you can find success with it as well.
Feel free to reach out with any questions you may have in the comments.