30 is almost a wrap for me! I was really shocked when my 20s suddenly ended a few months into the pandemic. We see 30 coming from a long way off, looming scarily on the horizon throughout our 20s, but it’s still a shock when it finally arrives. Turning 30 is for other people! People with their shit together. For me, leaving my 20s behind felt momentous and strange, like saying goodbye to a person.
I want to reassure anyone in their 20s that it’s not like that really. Life isn’t organised into neat, decade-long chapters. We don’t morph into slightly more evolved versions of ourselves with each birthday, like Pokémon. Change happens constantly.
I’m happier now than I was in my 20s but that’s nothing to do with my age. It’s just that I was heading down a path I should never have taken. I took an inelegant change of direction, and even though it was a very difficult thing, it was necessary.
We’re all different so there is no universal advice I can give you, but this is the advice I’d give my 20-something-year-old self now. Maybe you’ll find it useful too:
🌼 Don’t lose yourself trying to please or look after other people. It’s not selfish to have boundaries.
🌷 Listen to that gut feeling: it knows what it’s talking about even if you don’t yet.
🌻 Trust the process of life – there’s so much you can’t control so don’t pin everything on your plans working out. Be ready to adapt.
🌹 Hold on to your dreams. No matter what anyone says to put you off or ‘bring you back down to earth’… treat your dreams with the utmost respect and seriousness, and find people who will do the same.
🌺 Enjoy the moment. Enjoy moving your body. Enjoy food, people, good views, good times, and share that joy with everyone you meet. Life’s too short to be a Karen.
🌱 Know that there are lots of different ways to be beautiful, and your formula is yours. Other people’s beauty does not diminish yours.
🌾 Try to improve the world in little, everyday ways. Read loads. Question everything. If you can, donate regularly to a charity you care about.
Ok, my inner Baz Luhrman can simmer down now, geez.